{"id":1616,"date":"2026-02-02T05:09:04","date_gmt":"2026-02-02T05:09:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/?p=1616"},"modified":"2026-02-02T05:09:04","modified_gmt":"2026-02-02T05:09:04","slug":"my-coworker-publicly-shamed-me-for-not-supporting-single-moms-after-i-covered-her-shifts-for-months-so-i-replied-to-the-group-chat-with-screenshots-of-her-emergency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/?p=1616","title":{"rendered":"My Coworker Publicly Shamed Me for Not Supporting \u201cSingle Moms\u201d After I Covered Her Shifts for Months. So I Replied to the Group Chat With Screenshots of Her \u201cEmergency\u201d Loans Being Spent on Concert Tickets."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1618 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/11-50.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1030\" height=\"1826\" \/><\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"3\"><b data-path-to-node=\"3\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">My coworker is a single mom, and I\u2019ve always tried to be supportive.<\/b>\u00a0I know how hard it can be, so I went above and beyond.\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"3\" data-index-in-node=\"124\">Last year, I lent her some money because her baby needed a few things.<\/b>\u00a0It wasn\u2019t a small amount, but she swore she\u2019d pay me back.<\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-1\"><\/div>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"4\"><b data-path-to-node=\"4\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">She still hasn\u2019t paid me back.<\/b>\u00a0Instead, I watched her come into work wearing brand new clothes.\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"4\" data-index-in-node=\"96\">She keeps buying stuff for herself (like Uggs last month and concert tickets).<\/b>\u00a0Meanwhile, I stayed silent, not wanting to cause drama.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"5\"><b data-path-to-node=\"5\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">I\u2019ve also covered a lot of her shifts whenever she asked.<\/b>\u00a0Her excuses were endless:\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"5\" data-index-in-node=\"84\">\u201cI\u2019m exhausted,\u201d \u201cbabysitter issues,\u201d or \u201cI have to take the baby to the doctor.\u201d<\/b>\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"5\" data-index-in-node=\"166\">Even when it felt unjustified, I did it because I felt bad for her situation.<\/b><\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-1\"><\/div>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"6\"><b data-path-to-node=\"6\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">A couple of weeks ago, I asked her to cover for me one time.<\/b>\u00a0Just once.\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"6\" data-index-in-node=\"72\">She said she couldn\u2019t.<\/b>\u00a0No apology, just a flat no.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"7\"><b data-path-to-node=\"7\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">Then last night, she begged me to cover for her again.<\/b>\u00a0I finally stood up for myself.\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"7\" data-index-in-node=\"86\">This time I said no.<\/b><\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-1\"><\/div>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"8\"><b data-path-to-node=\"8\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">The next morning, I opened the work chat, and my stomach dropped.<\/b>\u00a0She had decided to play the victim.\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"8\" data-index-in-node=\"102\">She\u2019d posted: \u201cI guess some people here don\u2019t understand what it\u2019s like being a single mom.\u201d<\/b>\u00a0<b data-path-to-node=\"8\" data-index-in-node=\"195\">Then she listed a bunch of dates I\u2019d supposedly \u201crefused\u201d to help her, including some that weren\u2019t even true.<\/b><\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"9\"><b data-path-to-node=\"9\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">People started replying with sad emojis and sympathy. I felt my face go hot.<\/b><\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"10\">I was shaking with rage. I realized being \u201cnice\u201d was just letting her walk all over me. So, I took a deep breath, opened my banking app and my photo gallery, and compiled a little collage.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"11\">I replied to the group chat:\u00a0<i data-path-to-node=\"11\" data-index-in-node=\"29\">\u201cSince we\u2019re discussing understanding, maybe the team can help me understand this?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-1\"><\/div>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"12\">I attached three images:<\/p>\n<ol start=\"1\" data-path-to-node=\"13\">\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"13,0,0\">A screenshot of the $300 Venmo transfer I sent her labeled \u201cFor baby formula &amp; diapers,\u201d followed by a timestamped photo from her Instagram that same night showing her holding a $150 bottle of tequila at a club.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"13,1,0\">A side-by-side list from the schedule showing I had covered 12 of her shifts in the last six months, while she had covered exactly zero of mine.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"13,2,0\">A screenshot of her text to me from two weeks ago saying,\u00a0<i data-path-to-node=\"13,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"58\">\u201cI can\u2019t cover you, I need my rest lol,\u201d<\/i>\u00a0followed by her text from last night begging me to work because she\u00a0<i data-path-to-node=\"13,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"167\">\u201cdidn\u2019t feel like coming in.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"14\">\u201cI understand being a single mom is hard,\u201d I added. \u201cBut lying to your coworkers to get free money and time off isn\u2019t parenting. It\u2019s grifting. Please stop asking me for favors.\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"15\">The chat went dead silent. The sad emojis stopped instantly.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"16\">Five minutes later, the manager removed her from the group chat. She called out \u201csick\u201d for the rest of the week, likely out of embarrassment. When she finally came back, she didn\u2019t look at me once. She eventually transferred me $50\u2014it\u2019s a start, but the look on her face when the whole office knew the truth? That was priceless.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; My coworker is a single mom, and I\u2019ve always tried to be supportive.\u00a0I know how hard it can be, so I went above and beyond.\u00a0Last year, I lent her &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1616","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1616","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1616"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1616\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1619,"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1616\/revisions\/1619"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1616"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1616"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1616"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}