{"id":72207,"date":"2026-04-02T08:56:58","date_gmt":"2026-04-02T08:56:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/?p=72207"},"modified":"2026-04-02T08:56:58","modified_gmt":"2026-04-02T08:56:58","slug":"chivalry-isnt-dead-but-it-might-come-with-strings-attached","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dynenews.com\/?p=72207","title":{"rendered":"Chivalry isn’t dead\u2014but it might come with strings attached."},"content":{"rendered":"

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That was until the next morning when I saw that he\u2019d sent me a\u00a0Venmo request<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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For $86.42.<\/p>\n

I stared at my phone, waiting for the punchline. Maybe it was a joke? Maybe he\u2019d sent it to the wrong person?<\/p>\n

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Then another message came through.<\/p>\n

\u201cHad a great time last night. I believe in fairness. I covered dinner, so you can just reimburse your half. Looking forward to date #2.\u201d<\/p>\n

My stomach dropped.<\/p>\n

This was the same man who dramatically slid his card across the table and said,\u00a0\u201cA man pays on the first date.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0The same man who refused to let me touch my wallet. The same man who made a whole speech about chivalry.<\/p>\n

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Now he wanted itemized reimbursement.<\/p>\n

I opened the request details. He had split everything exactly down the middle \u2014 appetizer, entrees, tax, tip. Even the dessert he insisted we share.<\/p>\n

I typed, deleted, retyped.<\/p>\n

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Finally, I replied:
\u201cI offered to pay my half last night. You said no.\u201d<\/p>\n

Three dots appeared.<\/p>\n

\u201cWell, I didn\u2019t want to embarrass you in public. But relationships should be equal.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Embarrass me?<\/p>\n

I felt the roses on my kitchen counter suddenly look ridiculous. Like props from a performance.<\/p>\n

I thought about sending the money just to avoid the awkwardness. But something about the whole thing felt\u2026 transactional. Like the flowers, the door-opening, the chair-pulling \u2014 all of it was part of some script.<\/p>\n

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So instead, I declined the request.<\/p>\n

And I sent one last message.<\/p>\n

\u201cI agree. Relationships should be equal. Next time, let\u2019s just split the check at the table.\u201d<\/p>\n

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A minute later, he unsent the Venmo request.<\/p>\n

Then came a final text.<\/p>\n

\u201cWow. Didn\u2019t realize you were this kind of woman.\u201d<\/p>\n

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I smiled at my screen.<\/p>\n

And just like that, the best first date ever officially became the funniest first date story I\u2019ve ever had.<\/p>\n

The roses?
I gave them to my neighbor.<\/p>\n

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She said they were beautiful.<\/p>\n

I said, \u201cThey were.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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